Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what three “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were a “Forty-Godmother”. Herewith, there wishes to help you get a head start on perspective and gain confidence making decisions that are right for you.
1. Give yourself a little bit of patience.
People don’t give themselves enough room. We are so self-demanding and self-critical. you just have to realize that it doesn’t all come at once.
2. Don’t be afraid of sacrifice.
I think that life is ultimately all about sacrifice, particularly if you realize that you want to be distinctive at something. There are emotional rewards and monetary rewards and at the end of the day, you get it from both these dimensions. Money is only one means to that end.
3. Own what you are earned.
If you want something, if you have the opportunity to ask for something, you have earned it. You deserve to be there. The doubtful voices that get into your head come from another place and time. Push them out of your mind. It has nothing to do with what you are about to say/ask for/do. If you tell it to shut up often enough, it will go away. Believe me.