What three “gifts” would you give a 20-something if you were a “Forty-Godmother”? Here 40-somethings share three things to help a 20-something get a head start on the confidence to make decisions that are right for themselves. No more woulda, coulda, shoulda.
Don’t change yourself for a guy. Wait for a guy that fits you. You want to bring out the best in each other rather than have a constant give and take. Eventually I found my fit. It was when I could be 100% me and say this is what being me is all about.
You could be the only person in the world and you would still worry about what other people think. Just learn not to make decisions based on that — it’s a false barometer. You have to focus on what is right for you. I was so scattered when I was younger. I focused on work, trying to make relationships work that weren’t working and what other people thought. Know yourself. If I knew the power I had when I was 20 now, I would be a totally different person.
Learn to tip.
– 40-something, San Diego