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Don’t think of play time as wasted time. You need to play. Just make sure you don’t use your precious free time on things you don’t want to do! Spend time with people and things you care about, not things you feel obligated to do or feel guilty about not doing.
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When you commit to marriage, or whatever your version of that is, you are also marrying an entire family and their background. You have to really think about the values that you bring with you and that you are now going to be part of all their issues (and all families have them) It can be a huge part of your life. That is just one thing you don’t think about or realize how big of a role that will play in your life.
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It’s takes time to shed the layers of all the things you were told you should do and how you should act as a woman. Who you are in your early twenties may have been shaped by so many things from school to the media to your community and of course parents and family. Growing up everyone asks you what you want to be when you grow up, but there are subtle signals everywhere telling you to fit into a certain box. There is some room in that box, but still a lot of boundaries. When you shed some of those ‘shoulds’ and tell the world who you are, you will be surprised at how many doors open up.
What three “gifts” would you give a 20-something if you were a “Forty-Godmother”? Here 40-somethings share three wishes to help a 20-something get a head start on the confidence to make decisions that are right for them (not their parents, friends, teachers or society). No more woulda, coulda, shoulda.
If you would like to submit your three gifts, use the share/ ask / submit link!