What three “gifts” would you give a 20-something if you were a “Forty-Godmother”? 40-something women share three things to help a 20-something get a head start on the confidence to make decisions that are right for themselves. No more woulda, coulda, shoulda.
1. Listen to your body and take care of your mind. You think, “Oh I can push through”. But learn to listen now and find some way to give your body and mind peace. Start habits now to avoid chronic stress. And don’t be afraid to ask for help when you are feeling anxious.
2. I think everybody comes into your life for a reason. Some people are there forever and some people are there to teach you something. Take the gifts that they bring to your life.
3. My one piece of advice for my daughter is to say, “Sophie, in your twenties, if a guy is not all about you, if he’s not pursuing you, he’s not into you.” That’s such a hard lesson to learn I think, as a younger woman, because you think something could change or they’re going to change and he will see what you see. But the truth of the matter is, whatever space he’s in at that moment, if he is not in your dish and loving you and digging you for whatever reason, it’s just not there.