Today we had a question from a 20-something who has come here for some shared wisdom before. Now she is back with a follow up. The question: Dear 40-somethings, About 3 years ago I came here to ask for advice on whether I should move to another state to live with my long distance boyfriend in […] Read more…
Most of us want to share our lives with someone. We want a connection, a soul mate, a partner, whether or not they come with a legal certificate or an expiration date. But what’s the real deal? How do you find love and partnership without losing your identity? How do people grow as individuals and […] Read more…
When I went around the country interviewing women of all marital statuses about relationships, a lot of women talked about expectations. The root of much fighting is about disappointment over expectations not being met. The big difference about being married is that when you have a fight, you can’t just say forget this. I’m outta here. […] Read more…
Today’s post on closing one window and opening another. A love story. ~ It’s true. It’s better to be happy on your own than miserable in a relationship. I stayed with something for too long despite being unhappy. We were separate people living in the same house. It’s a terrible way to spend time. I […] Read more…
What three “gifts” would you give a 20-something if you were a “Forty-Godmother”? This is where I ask 40-something women to share 3 things to help a 20-something get a head start on gaining confidence to make decisions that are right for you. No more woulda, coulda, shoulda. 1. Pain is finite. 2. […] Read more…
Today’s post is from a woman reflecting on marriage…or what happens in any relationship when it is based on how the person feels about you rather than how you feel about them. ~ On her marriage… I was so reactionary when it came to relationships. “How does he feel about me? Does he think I’m pretty? I think I’m […] Read more…
Weddings almost always make me look forward or backward. But this summer I enjoyed two weddings entirely in the present. Looking back now, I see how people today are increasingly creating new rituals and putting their own twist on the old. I think it’s related to the fact that people waiting a little longer to […] Read more…
Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what three “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were a “Forty-Godmother”. In essence, three things to help you get a head start on perspective and gain the confidence you need to make decisions that are right for you. […] Read more…