What three “gifts” would you give a 20-something if you were a “Forty-Godmother”? 40-something women share three things to help a 20-something get a head start on the confidence to make decisions that are right for themselves. No more woulda, coulda, shoulda.
1. If you have done everything you can to make a relationship work and it’s not working, something is missing. You have to ask yourself why you are staying.
2. Identify your needs and wants. We often confuse them. Ask yourself what you can live with. And don’t sell yourself short.
3. I used a 2-2-3 rule when it came to my career early on. A job every two years. Push yourself, learn everything you can and meet new people. Get expertise and experience. Then on your third job stay and apply what you have learned and get the management experience that you don’t get by continuing to switch. From there keep pushing yourself and use whether you are still growing (personally, professionally and $$$) as the gauge for when to start looking for something new.” – 40-something, working mom, divorced, NJ