Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what three “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were a “Forty-Godmother”. In essence, three things to help you get a head start on perspective and gain the confidence you need to make decisions that are right for you. No more woulda, coulda, shoulda.
1. Don’t be afraid to talk up your accomplishments. Sometimes women assume they will get noticed if they do the right things and that is not always the case. You have to be your own advocate. You’ve earned the right to say…I did this well! Just tie it back to the company’s goals and be gracious rather than obnoxious.
2. Career success is not always about having the knowledge yourself; it’s about asking the right questions. That will always give you perspective that you can’t see for yourself. Ask…and then listen for the insight that will unlock a better answer.
3. No life is without its complications. Coming to terms with that is part of becoming a woman. It’s important to be able to adjust the picture of your life. As you experience and learn you may gain more focus. And what you thought wanted may not be what you want. You have to be open to continually redefining your own happiness.