Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what three “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were a “Forty-Godmother”. In essence, three things to help you get a head start on perspective and gain the confidence you need to make decisions that are right for you. No more woulda, coulda, shoulda.
1. Understand that the reason someone else does something may not the same reason you do it. They may have a totally different motivation. Getting at motivations is the key to resolving tension and building relationships at both work and home.
2. Call your friends back and always have their back. Competition can’t exist in a true friendship.
3. Do go to networking or social events alone. Just prepare. Knowing how to work a room takes work. Think about what you want to achieve ahead of time. Have some things in your head as conversation starters…the more specific the better.