Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what three “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were a “Forty-Godmother”. In essence, three things to help you get a head start on perspective and gain the confidence you need to make decisions that are right for you. No more woulda, coulda, shoulda. Today ‘s is a little different, as I’m rushing off to brunch following my nephew’s wedding…I give you three links from a 40-something!
1. For Mother’s Day: Appreciating what Mom taught you – that will last forever. Ten Things My Mom Taught Me (40:20 Vision)
“In honor of a beautiful Mother’s Day yesterday spent celebrating moms near and far and memories of mothers no longer here, I decided to dedicate today’s post to my mom and 10 things she has taught me. From the random and more practical to the real.”
2. In honor of my nephew’s wedding: One of my favorite posts on marriage: 15 Ways to Stay Married for 15 Years (and more:) Don’t feel #7 is a should or must. #10, I think is the mindset that adds the “lasting” to love.
“Stop thinking temporarily. Accept that you’re going to stay with him. He’s going to stay with you. Inhabit that and figure out how to make THAT work, instead of living with the “what if”s and “in case of’s.”
3. Just plain 40:20 Vision (and a fun read): How a Night With Arianna Huffington Changed My Life. We often talk about how to balance being frugal with living life in your 20s. This goes in the category of “do spend on experiences”. This story from Rachel Sklar confirms to me that it’s not about luck, it’s when your vision and drive takes opportunity. May this help you be brave in spotting an opportunity and strategically going for it! Call that pluck.
“I was leaning into this whole full-time writer thing and, well, times were lean. I felt like if I just put in the time I could eventually make it to solvency. (I faintly remembered solvency and I missed it.) Still, building a career for myself doing what I loved seemed like a good trade-off.”