Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what 3 “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were a “Forty-Godmother”. Here are one woman’s gifts:
To make enough money that you can support yourself well and to have enough good friends around that you enjoy doing things with that you don’t have that same sense of “I need somebody to take care of me.” I’m not saying that’s a bad thing. Security is a nice thing to have in your life but I think having a career and making good money allowed me to not stress over that part of my life. It just came a lot easier.
To know when it is time to move on. To change your partner of your job when you are justifying your behavior or your partners behavior. When they don’t make you feel good. It’s really pretty simple.
To get very good at communicating your expectations. Most of the problems in relationships, whether it be friends, partners or colleagues, is disappointment that your expectations have not been met. No one can meet expectations that aren’t set.