40-Something Question: How Should I Tell People I’m Divorced?

Dear 40-something readers: Feel free to contribute an answer or your story at any time!

You will notice a new column on the right side of the blog with an ASK and ANSWER icon as well as an option to submit your own stories.

The ANSWER section will list recently submitted questions from 20-something women. To answer simply click on the GIVE US YOUR ANSWER link.

For any of you who have been through a divorce let us know if you have an answer for this woman who is embarrassed and feels judged about her 20-something divorce.

“I was married at 19 and divorced by 21 with no children. Although, I feel like divorce was the only option after discovering my husband’s painful affair, I still can’t help being embarrassed. The few strangers I’ve had to tell have given me such judgmental looks and comments and it just changes the way I feel about myself, like I’ve done something wrong.

As someone so young, I hope I can move on with my life and make new friends and possibly new relationships down the line.

My question is, how and when do I tell someone I’m divorced. I’m worried someone will not want to associate with me once they find out, but I do not want to lie. So what do I do?