What three “gifts” would you give a 20-something if you were a “Forty-Godmother”? Here 40-somethings share three wishes to help a 20-something get a head start on the confidence to make decisions that are right for themselves. No more woulda, coulda, shoulda.
1. Don’t fixate on the bad. Focus on what is good in your life. We tend to mull in the negative and that overshadows the 80% of life that’s good. The more you focus on the good and making decisions based on what ‘s working vs not working, the closer you may get to 100%.
2. Replace “I should” and “I could” and “I wish”, with “I can”, “I need” and “I want”.
3.Try to focus on what makes you happy. The more comparative your goals are the more they can disappoint you if you achieve them and you still are feeling unfulfilled. Try to separate out all the noise and ask yourself, what is it that makes me proud.