What three “gifts” would you give a 20-something if you were a “Forty-Godmother”? 40-something women share three things to help a 20-something get a head start on the confidence to make decisions that are right for themselves. No more woulda, coulda, shoulda.
1. Don’t be afraid of starting over. When you get to pick yourself up and start over, it’s almost like you’re redefining yourself. You are the same at the core but you are constantly changing and learning and becoming stronger. It doesn’t mean you won’t have setbacks but it you approach it differently. It means you get to find a better version of yourself on the other side of every change.
2. Believe in yourself. It the hardest thing to do when you’re out of school and you’re floundering. It’s a decade where you just don’t know what the hell you want. You have this college degree. You’re supposed to get a job, support yourself, figure out a career and just go. But chances are you are in an entry-level position that isn’t inspiring! It’s okay. It’s okay to flounder. It’s okay to fall down. It’s okay to have no money. But never compare yourself to somebody else that has more because then you are will only hurt yourself. You got to just own it. Yeah I’ve got no money. I’m broke. I can figure it out. It doesn’t all have to happen at 22. You will bet more confidence under your belt and then you’re stronger and make more money. You don’t have to prove yourself before 25!
3. Heartbreaks mean you are human. It’s almost like a badge of honor when you go through your twenties and you have this heartbreak and then one day you wake up and you just put on your “dancing shoes” and say, “I did it”. The outcome is so much better because for whatever reason, people, things…the world continues to go around. The sun still comes up and you find something or someone else that you love.