What three “gifts” would you give a 20-something if you were a “Forty-Godmother”? 40-something women share three things to help a 20-something get a head start on the confidence to make decisions that are right for themselves. No more woulda, coulda, shoulda.
1. Make up your own mind. Be quizzical. Don’t co-opt others POVs without questioning them. Explore as many perspectives as you can. When you can think for yourself you end up making decisions for other people that aren’t necessarily the best decisions for you..
2. Don’t waste time being critical of others. If you took all the time spent talking about other people and put it to talking positively about yourself or others– there would be a whole lot more happy in the world.
3. Don’t let other people’s insecurities define who you are. When someone criticizes something you do in regard to friendship, career, mothering or anything for that matter, they are just defending what they are doing to validate themselves.