Don’t forget about you.
I always thought I would I would go somewhere south and go to law school. But after I graduated I was crazy in love so I went to where he was. I moved to New York and it just kind of went from there. It’s funny because I didn’t think I wanted kids. I’m the oldest of 6 kids and my parents split up so I saw how crazy it could be. I had no interest. But when I turned 30 that started to change for me. I never felt the biological clock but it was just this gradual going off course. It was very gradual. I gradually veered off course of where I thought I would go at twenty and I just went with it. I just think that’s how life goes, right?
And I love my life. But I think what’s right for me may not be right for somebody else. I always think about what I would tell my daughter. I would say “I think it’s great that you’re in love but you can’t forget about you. You have to do what’s right for you and as much as you want to follow him, maybe he should follow you.” I would always push them to be selfish. I want my daughters to be selfish. – 40-somethiing married 25 years, mom of 3