Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what three “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were a “Forty-Godmother”. In essence, three things to help you get a head start on perspective and gain the confidence you need to make decisions that are right for you. No more woulda, coulda, shoulda.
1. Take care of your friends. Make a pact. You take care of them and they take care of you.
2. Take time to find out what kind of person you really are. I don’t think one thing should define your life all of the time so if you don’t try everything, you’re not going find who you really are. I think that would make you very restless. I think people are so self-conscious about doing some things in their 20s. You have more of a comfort level with trying new things that comes with age and that’s a shame. You should do it in your twenties. Find yourself. I know it’s hard to do because you’re so used to all your life being in this group where you’re part of something and not just being you. But if you don’t do it your twenties you will find yourself doing it in your forties.
3. Keep your life moving. When your job, your relationship our friends suck your energy….it’s time to move on.