Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what three “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were a “Forty-Godmother”. Here’s what one 40-something woman had to say.
1.
Start off each day being grateful for one thing or thinking about one thing you are excited about. A much better framework to start the day than a checklist of what is wrong or what you don’t have.
2.
Appreciate your boyfriend / partner for what they do for you. Don’t “depreciate” them for what they don’t do that your friends’ boyfriends do. Everyone shows love in different ways…be sure to separate the not caring for you from caring for you in a different way than your friends’ boyfriends (or romantic movies).
3.
Find some sort of improv or amateur theater group. When you get the imposter syndrome (I am not supposed to be here / not good enough / not ready to be here) you need to act like the person you want to be. Any sort of public speaking or drama work helps a lot.