Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what 3 “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were a “Forty-Godmother”. Here are one woman’s gifts:
1. Learn to fall.
My dad always used to say, it’s one thing to learn how to ride a horse but you’ve got to learn how to fall. I guess that’s always stuck to my mind. I have found that learning how to fall is the best experience that you can ever take, and learning how to make mistakes is the best experience I think anybody should make. It’s more important than being successful because that’s what will make you successful.
2. To move at least once in your twenties.
Growing up we moved around to various towns so picking up and starting over never was that big of a deal for me and I think that’s what gave me confidence in my young adulthood. You get to pick yourself up and start over. It’s almost like you’re redefining yourself. I feel like Madonna sometimes. You’re constantly changing. And you get to try a new place. You can always go back.
3. To know that you are worth it.
A relationship should be a decision you both make not a negotiation or a game.