Herewith, three “gifts” one 40-something woman would give a 20-something if she were a “Forty-Godmother”. What are yours?
Today’s three gifts are from a group of 40-something women to a group of younger women on what they have learned about managing personal and professional wellbeing. The discussion was rich and covered much ground…but one thing that came through was a sense that you have to start with yourself. When you are grounded and comfortable with yourself, both the good and the bad, you have the inner strength to navigate the ups and downs …knowing there always is an another side to the cycle. Here are three ‘gifts’ that came out of the session!
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The elimination of woulda shoulda coulda from your personal dictionary .
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To turn the mirror inward rather than outward. Don’t spend too much time comparing yourself to others. We tend to compare the worst of ourselves, the insecurities that wage war on our self-confidence, with the best of others–the side they choose to show the world. It’s an unfair comparison.
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Thought management. Our mind’s natural state is to go to the place that worries us. It’s a leftover survival instinct. So often that means our mind lingers on the negative self-talk in our head. Learning thought management is a process. Start by saying three positive things about yourself as soon as you wake up and before the negative thoughts can begin.