Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what 3 “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were a “Forty-Godmother”. Here are one woman’s gifts: 1. A trip to a place where one has rudimentary knowledge of the language and has to find multiple ways to express oneself. 2. […] Read more…
July 2011 archive
Can You Live at Home and Gain Independence?
Q: Dear 40-somethings, I recently graduated from the University of Iowa. I can stay here, live with my friend, pay my own rent, wait tables, gain my own independence by hard work. OR I can move back to Chicago, live with my dad, find a new job, save money that would otherwise go to rent […] Read more…
The Difference Between Immature and Mature Relationships
I saw Elizabeth Gilbert speak this past winter about the difference between immature love and mature love. It came to mind recently when a woman asked what a guy means when he says “he is not ready for a relationship”. It may just mean he can’t progress beyond immature love. Elizabeth related her belief that immature […] Read more…
Helping Yourself: The Benefit of Compassion in the Workplace
The twenties are often a self-centered time. Not in a bad way per se. You are going through a lot of learning and separating from home and becoming independent. It is a me time. However, in the process of becoming independent, understanding others can help you become smarter about yourself and help the larger cause, […] Read more…
Throw Away Your Script
While away last week I re-blogged some old items and thus re-read my old posts, including this post inspired by Hoda Kotb. It has some great advice for not being afraid to ask for what you want and the risks of being too prepared. But what I like about Hoda’s story is that is it really […] Read more…
What To Do When One Person Is Not Ready
Today I have a new question from a 20-something wondering why a guy can go from hot pursuit and nine months of a perfect relationship to “not being ready” for a relationship. Q: Dear 40-somethings: I’ve been going through a difficult time losing my boyfriend due to him not being ready for a relationship. We […] Read more…
Three Gifts for a 20-Something (31)
Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what 3 “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were a “Forty-Godmother”. Here are one woman’s gifts: 1. I will give you a therapist. 2. I will give you an IRA with 5 years of saving already in it so […] Read more…
Leaving the Security of What You Know
“Some people are afraid to leave the security of what they know. I bet if you did research on the most successful people, I can guarantee they did not stay at home and surround themselves with the familiar. They take risks. And taking risks is a hard thing to get yourself in the mode of […] Read more…