We often talk about what doesn’t change when you get married. This woman has a good take on what does change..in a good way. “A good expectation for marriage is so basic. The best advice I got was from a friend. An older guy. He said, ‘You really, really want to marry someone who is […] Read more…
February 2011 archive
Three Wishes for a Twenty-Something (10)
Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what 3 “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were a “Forty-Godmother”. Here’s one woman’s gifts: 1. I would give them confidence. How? You can get it by developing your skills through work and through volunteering. I think that is a big […] Read more…
To Quit or Not to Quit
A few days ago I did a post answering the 20-something question, “What things did 40-something women quit and wish they hadn’t…and what things didn’t they quit and wished they had?” More 40-something women have weighed in. The first response below is from a women who wishes she hadn’t quit journaling the “journey” from 20 to […] Read more…
Embrace Your Power
A Glamour Magazine survey found that “on average, women have 13 negative body thoughts daily.” The editor of Glamour, Cindy Leive points out in a Today Show interview excerpted from The Huffington Post: That is almost “one for every waking hour.” The level of criticism women hurl at themselves is “brutal.” She worries, “If a man […] Read more…
What Should You Quit?
Q. It would be good to hear from 40-somethings about things they quit and wished they hadn’t, things they didn’t quit and wished they had…and their thoughts on how to discern between the two options. – 20-something A. Quit when there are more negatives than positives — when it’s harming your well-being, self esteem and self […] Read more…
When To Leave a Job
Q. When is the right time to leave a job? A. I get asked this question a lot and it’s particularly relevant as many 20-somethings get a bad rap for changing jobs at the drop of the hat and not paying their dues. There are a variety of reasons to move on or not. The […] Read more…
From Men are Dogs to Men are Puppies …
The article “Where Have The Good Men Gone?” in this weekend’s Wall Street Journal follows up on the New York Times article “What is it About 20-Somethings” with the perspective that perhaps men are extending adolescence longer than women…causing a dating conundrum amongst 20-something women. This may not be limited to 20-somethings. I recently met […] Read more…
Huffington Post: Lessons from the Worst Break-Ups
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/christina-vuleta/breakup-lessons_b_824718.html. I thought I’d see how the Gawker worst breakup stories ever stacked up against 40:20 Vision hindsight — what 40-something women would tell 20-something women based on what they know now. Read more…