Today is week three in a 40-something woman’s six-week journal of her “time out”. After quitting her job and spending time with her parents, she is continuing to capture what she is experiencing now and how it’s different from her 20s. Today she is writing about friendships at 40 vs. 20. Friends are another thing […] Read more…
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Honest Talk at Honestly Now
Today I’m braving new ground (yes I know breaking… but braving is more what I mean). I’m entering the world of tweet chats. I couldn’t be more excited than to be a guest on #HonestlyChat with Tereza Nemessanyi of Honestly Now. I meet Tereza a few weeks ago and we couldn’t stop talking! From hearing […] Read more…
Being An Adult Child
Last week a 40-something woman shared her experience about losing her job and what she knows now…that quitting doesn’t mean failing. Today she journals about her experience living at home for a few weeks and how the parent-child relationship continues to evolve as you shift from the “taker” of care to friend. Sometimes it’s easy […] Read more…
How Important is Friendship in a Marriage?
“It isn’t marriage that’s hard, messy, difficult and complicated, it’s life itself. Opting out of marriage doesn’t avoid any of life’s struggles or heartbreaks. But going through life married to your best friend means doubling the joys and halving the sorrows. This quote was from an article in Newsweek debating the necessity of marriage […] Read more…
Ask Why? Not Why Not? Before You Say I Do
People always ask me what the people who are most happily married say about the key to their success. There are a lot of answers and a lot of happily married women, don’t get me wrong. But most people will say one key is to take your time. Really get to know that person you […] Read more…
Can You Live at Home and Gain Independence?
Q: Dear 40-somethings, I recently graduated from the University of Iowa. I can stay here, live with my friend, pay my own rent, wait tables, gain my own independence by hard work. OR I can move back to Chicago, live with my dad, find a new job, save money that would otherwise go to rent […] Read more…
The Difference Between Immature and Mature Relationships
I saw Elizabeth Gilbert speak this past winter about the difference between immature love and mature love. It came to mind recently when a woman asked what a guy means when he says “he is not ready for a relationship”. It may just mean he can’t progress beyond immature love. Elizabeth related her belief that immature […] Read more…
What To Do When One Person Is Not Ready
Today I have a new question from a 20-something wondering why a guy can go from hot pursuit and nine months of a perfect relationship to “not being ready” for a relationship. Q: Dear 40-somethings: I’ve been going through a difficult time losing my boyfriend due to him not being ready for a relationship. We […] Read more…