Q. I’m friends with a group of girls who used to hate me in high school because of the male attention I used to get. After high school we all ended up going to the same university and got to know each other and became close. However, I always get the feeling that these people […] Read more…
Posts Tagged ‘40-something’
Bad Guys Gone Good?
Yesterday I began to answer the question from a 20-something, “do bad guys ever eventually turn good?” This was in response to the advice not to waste too much time on bad guys in your twenties. Date them, have fun with them, but don’t try to change them or marry them. But perhaps, depending on […] Read more…
What is a “Bad Guy”?
Q: Do bad guys ever eventually become good guys? A. Depends on what you mean by “bad guy”. I get a lot of advice from 40-something women about not spending too much time with bad boys. But 20-somethings want to know, what is a bad guy…and can they morph into a good guy? Many 40-somethings […] Read more…
Three Gifts for a 20-Something (11)
Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what 3 “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were a “Forty-Godmother”. Here’s one woman’s gifts: 1. A voice that is your constant friend telling you to speak your mind. 2. Magic glasses to spot friends who are not your true […] Read more…
Change is Good
I’m lucky. A friend of mine has great mantras. So I get to steal hers. One of my favorites is one that you have heard here before, “Of course you can, you’re an adult!” I think the idea of a mantra is to live by it and use it to reaffirm your choices and give […] Read more…
It’s Okay Not to Know
When we interview for a job we spend a lot of time trying to convince people we’re the right person for the job. The right fit. We spend time perfecting our resume. Then we get a job and think we have to be right. You have to prove to your employer that they made the […] Read more…
Dating for You in Your Twenties
A lot of 40-something women recommend not getting married before 30. Give or take a few years:) But that means 10 years of navigating the uncertain world of dating in your 20’s. Some people love dating and take the bad with the good. It always makes for good stories. Some people have to force themselves […] Read more…
An Expectation for Marriage
We often talk about what doesn’t change when you get married. This woman has a good take on what does change..in a good way. “A good expectation for marriage is so basic. The best advice I got was from a friend. An older guy. He said, ‘You really, really want to marry someone who is […] Read more…