Q: Do you ever stop thinking about your first love? – 20-something A: Yes….you do. You stop thinking about them. And then they become a memory. For many, a good memory that recalls the excitement of first love, nostalgia for a more innocent, if naive side of ourselves, and most importantly a learning about ourselves […] Read more…
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Three Gifts for a 20-Something (7)
Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what 3 “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were a “Forty-Godmother”. Here’s one woman’s gifts: ~1~ “Don’t over-analyze a guy. I will give you that ability with a magic wand — don’t think too much. Take it for what is […] Read more…
Slow Down
We all feel the pressure to achieve some imaginary “to-do” list. There’s a sense that we only have a window of time in our 20s to accomplish so much. Sometimes that leads to rushing into things or choosing a path before it’s time. It’s time to explore yes…but use that time. Don’t just fill it […] Read more…
Appreciate Your Negatives
Yes, you read that right. Sometimes the things we think are our worst flaws end up being something we can use to our advantage. Maybe take a minute today to forgive yourself a flaw and see where embracing it takes you. Here is one woman’s advice on how she turned something she used to beat […] Read more…
Fueling the Fire – Love that Lasts
A new study shows it is possible to still be madly in love with your partner after 20-some years. Nice news in today’s world where the idea of lasting love seems ever more quaint. The study from Stony Brook University in New York used brain scans to find that some couples married on average 21 […] Read more…
Give Yourself Props
We often are hardest on ourselves. As one 40-something observed, “We say things to ourselves that we would never tell our worst enemy.” The advice today is from another 40-something woman who learned that stopping and taking stock of your own assets can really make a difference in achieving your goals. “Tell yourself 10 great […] Read more…
Three Gifts for a 20-Something (6)
Another response to the question I ask every 40-something I interview: What 3 “gifts” would you give a 20-something as her “Forty-Godmother”? 1. Approach every situation as though it’s one option among many and not your only option. You need to know that there are so many options and really believe it. Don’t just feel […] Read more…
Don’t Put All Your Eggs in One Relationship Basket
A lot of 40-somethings say , “Don’t waste time in the wrong relationship in your twenties.” A lot of 20-somethings ask, “How do you know when it’s wrong and when it’s too much time?” Here is one woman’s insightful take: “In my twenties I was insecure about relationships with guys sometimes. Now looking back, there […] Read more…