If you know a friend of yours is jealous and envious of you, while badmouthing you to degrade you, should you cut all ties? A twenty-something asked me this the other day. It’s a subject we’ve touched on before but this is really about the when and if to cut bait. 40-somethings have come to […] Read more…
December 2010 archive
Beware the Context of Text
I had dinner with a friend the other night who is dating a man from another country. He speaks excellent English but it is his second language. Sometimes that leads to communication gaps, but it’s only accentuated by the way we communicate today…the text. She jokes that he plays the language card on texts when […] Read more…
Tuning Out the Negative Voices in Your Head
Another post on The Huffington Post today. Check it out at http://www.huffingtonpost.com/christina-vuleta/the-black-swan-an-extreme_b_792116.html. ‘Black Swan’: Exemplifying What Happens When You Heed the Negative Voices in Your Head This movie is a fantasy, but the reality is that many young women have a rich fantasy life in their head. When something goes askew, the mind hits its […] Read more…
40-somethings on “How Do You Know?”
There’s a new movie out this week called “How Do You Know”. That’s another question I get asked a lot. I remember asking it myself in my 20s — every time a friend got engaged. It was so frustrating that most answered, “I don’t know, you just know.” Some of the 40-something women I interviewed […] Read more…
Three Gifts for a 20-Something
Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what 3 “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were your “Forty-Godmother”. Here’s one woman’s gifts: ~ 1 ~ “The power not to obsess. Something that will turn off the part of the brain / thought process that obsesses and makes […] Read more…
The Black Swan — More Pressure to be Thin?
The movie Black Swan opens today with Natalie Portman and Mila Kunis playing a dance of good and evil in the competitive world of ballet. Everyone knows ballerinas are under constant pressure to be ultra-thin. Both actresses had to lose up to 20 pounds to fit the mold. They each recounted how awful they looked […] Read more…
Don’t Think You Have to be Something You’re Not to Succeed
“We’re all wired differently. There are people who are visionaries. They need to be in a job where they get the opportunity to do that. There are people that are more tactical implementators and they can take very big picture ideas and narrow them down to something that people can go do. So you’ve got to […] Read more…