A lot of 40-somethings say , “Don’t waste time in the wrong relationship in your twenties.” A lot of 20-somethings ask, “How do you know when it’s wrong and when it’s too much time?” Here is one woman’s insightful take: “In my twenties I was insecure about relationships with guys sometimes. Now looking back, there […] Read more…
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What is it Like to Date Someone 18 Years Older?
Q: If I’m dating a man who is 39 when I’m 21 what will it be like when I’m 42 and he’s 60? I’m dating a man 18 years older than me. We have a lot in common and we get along really well. We did break up after 6 months because he felt bad […] Read more…
Surviving the Break-Up…It Will All be Okay
I heard a few really dubious break-ups stories over the holidays…from the now seemingly acceptable text message break up to Santa leaving a bag worse than coals — all your stuff and your keys. Really? It’s always the timing that confounds. One day planning a vacation, buying a house…the next day …it’s over. As hard […] Read more…
20-Somethings Want to Know…Can You Forgive Infidelity?
Q: I’d like to know, should a woman stay with a man after he has cheated on her since people do make mistakes and he is begging for forgiveness and another chance? – 20-something submission A: This one is a tough one as every situation is different. It is a question I have asked…and it’s […] Read more…
Don’t Float Through Relationships
A lot of women ask me about the “right time” to get married? I’ve shared the perspective a few times that most 40-somethings recommend waiting to get married until you are 30. They believe you should be free to explore yourself in your 20s without the pressure of “Should I marry him? When?” Now matter […] Read more…
How Relationships Can Help You Grow
Yesterday must have been relationship day. There were a couple of interesting interviews in the news about how to sustain a good relationship. The New York Times had an article on “The Sustainable Marriage” being more about the “me” than the “we”. People today are seeking partners that make their life more interesting, a shift from […] Read more…
It’s Easy to be Nice for a Date or Two — It’s What Happens Over Time That Counts
When I ask women in long-term relationships about what makes their relationship work, many of them say (amongst other things) that their guy is kind. It seems there are two kinds of guys: the kind guy and the not so kind. There are still plenty of men I talk to who complain that the nice […] Read more…
Twelve 40:20 Quotes of 2010
1) “That person in your life should make your life more fun, more awesome, more great. They should make you feel more beautiful than you already do. Not the opposite.” — 40-something, Brooklyn 2) “Don’t go out with someone just because they are interested in you. Know what you want.” – 40-something, NYC 3) “I […] Read more…