By Mica Walsh, 4020 Vision Ambassador
What three “gifts” would you give a 20-something if you were a “Forty-Godmother”? Here 40-somethings share three wishes to help a 20-something get a head start on the confidence to make decisions that are right for themselves. No more woulda, coulda, shoulda.
Today I’m sharing an interview with a 40-something year-old director at a Fortune 500 company, a wife, and a busy mother of 3 children. Here are the 3 gifts that she’d like to give a 20-something year old.
1) Don’t take social media too seriously.
It’s easy to think that everything posted on social media is true, but I’ve realized that most of it’s a front. I’ve seen postings about forever love, and then a few months later I find out that the couple has broken up. Where is the break-up post? You hardly ever see that.
Don’t get caught up with what others are posting about themselves online. Remember, they’re only sharing a snippet of their lives—usually the best parts. It’s so important to feel good about yourself, regardless of what others are doing or posting. That way you can do what’s right for you. Have faith in yourself and follow your dreams!
2) Be proactive but not overbearing.
At work, I’ve noticed that my younger colleagues would sometimes follow up with me many times on a project, prior to the due date that we’ve already agreed upon. I understand wanting to be proactive, but too much follow up can come across as overbearing. While every situation is different, I generally find that 1 – 2 friendly reminders prior to a deadline is sufficient.
3) Take time for what matters most.
Whether it’s volunteering, taking a new class, or traveling the world, it’s good to do things outside of your normal routine. With technology, it’s so easy to sit on the couch, doing social media or watching videos for hours at a time. Don’t get stuck in that rut! I want you to look back at your younger years and say: I’ve done that and I don’t regret it! It doesn’t have to be anything crazy, either. It can be something as simple as joining a gym, or spending quality time with family and friends.
40-something, New Jersey