June 2013 archive

Moving past “hot mess” chic

I’ll confess it: I’m a recovering hot mess. In the years after college, I was often self-deprecating and unconfident, minimizing my achievements and playing demure as a means to connect—especially with men. I struggled to get concrete about what I wanted in work and in love. I see these kinds of adorably flustered young female […] Read more…

Three Gifts for a 20-Something (116)

Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what 3 “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were a “Forty-Godmother”. Here are one woman’s gifts:   1.  Find your own normal. Don’t spend a lot of time worrying about what other people think is normal …it will only distract […] Read more…

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not

“Don’t go out with someone just because they are interested in you. Know what you want.”– 40-something, married, mom, fashion designer, Brooklyn, NY I have heard this sentiment from a lot of 40-something women. Looking back they realize that it was usually the men who were interested in them that they ended up going out […] Read more…

Three Gifts for a 20-Something

Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what 3 “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were a “Forty-Godmother”. Here are one woman’s gifts: 1. Fear but not enough to paralyze you. But you need a sense of fear to mobilize you. I would give them a sense […] Read more…

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