Herewith, three “gifts” one 40-something woman would give a 20-something if she were a “Forty-Godmother”. What are yours?
~1~
To want to prove yourself…for yourself. Having something to prove drives you to reach for something. But when you are trying to prove it to others it is a chip on your shoulder. When it is something you want to prove to yourself it’s following your dream. What do you want to prove to yourself? Find it.
~2~
To have one person in your life who truly believes in you…so you know that you are worth believing in when you have moments of doubt. Someone in your corner.
~3~
To find an excellent match. Don’t settle for anything less. I don’t have unrealistic standards. You can’t find somebody who will satisfy every need you have in the universe. But to find someone with whom you know you’ll always value and who’ll always value you and have no question about that. That’s what sealed the deal for me. It’s the way you know somebody else so well and yet can still learn so much from them. It’s not about the tyranny of expectations that we all face. It’s about shared values and your own expectations.