When you reach a certain age, you have already put up with so much nonsense and heartache. You realize…WOW, I’ve learned a lot of lessons along the way trying to find that guy who was supposed to be the prince and might grew up and might fit into the vison I had for my life. […] Read more…
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One Thing You Need To Grow Out Of To Grow Up
I call it the drama. That was the funny thing about being 20-something. The drama associated with being twenty and trying to prove yourself and make everyone else happy. You have to grow out of it. You have to develop the ability to teach people how to treat you. It’s how you treat yourself – you […] Read more…
Dealing with the Relationship Ice
Today we’re answering a question from a 20-something reader on the age-old issue of trying to make sense of an unexplained break-up. Shedding some perspective on dealing with the “WHY?” we have two women and one man from my 40+ panel. Breaking up without breaking up is ever easier in the age of text. I […] Read more…
A Marriage Is A Universe
A 40-something global consultant talks about what she she learned about finding love. Her story… ~ Be open to it… The biggest stroke of luck that can ever befall anyone is to find an excellent match. I don’t have unrealistic standards. I don’t think you can find somebody who will […] Read more…
Are You Too Available? Create Your Own Ecosystem
Today we had a question from a 20-something who has come here for some shared wisdom before. Now she is back with a follow up. The question: Dear 40-somethings, About 3 years ago I came here to ask for advice on whether I should move to another state to live with my long distance boyfriend in […] Read more…
Fall in Love with Imperfection
Most of us want to share our lives with someone. We want a connection, a soul mate, a partner, whether or not they come with a legal certificate or an expiration date. But what’s the real deal? How do you find love and partnership without losing your identity? How do people grow as individuals and […] Read more…
Mountains at 20 Become Moleholes at 40
When I went around the country interviewing women of all marital statuses about relationships, a lot of women talked about expectations. The root of much fighting is about disappointment over expectations not being met. The big difference about being married is that when you have a fight, you can’t just say forget this. I’m outta here. […] Read more…
You Can’t “Make” It Work
Today’s post on closing one window and opening another. A love story. ~ It’s true. It’s better to be happy on your own than miserable in a relationship. I stayed with something for too long despite being unhappy. We were separate people living in the same house. It’s a terrible way to spend time. I […] Read more…