The Value of Thankless Tasks

I may be one of the last people I know to read The Happiness Project…but now I am. Yesterday I ran across a bit of advice that hit home and reminded me of a mind-shift that happened for me when interviewed a woman this past summer. The idea that doing nice things for others should […] Read more…

Don’t Waste Time Caring What Other People Think

“It’s a waste of time to care so much about what other people think. I was much more aware of and I cared much more about how people were judging me in my 20s. Now I don’t have any time to care. And I can see I would have benefited from not caring then.” – 40-something, working mom, […] Read more…

Cutting the Family Ties

I recently answered a question about the trade-offs of living at home vs. buying an apartment. A 20-something woman who moved here from Eastern Europe brought the question up again through the lens of “what happens when your parents and family don’t want you to move out?” Independence is in many ways a core value […] Read more…

Now We Know…Just Ask for Help!

Future Anxiety Syndrome This weekend I had the fun opportunity to be a fly on the wall at a mini-reunion of eight 40 year old women who went to college together. Many of them went on to live together in Chicago and now they  hail from Chicago, Pittburgh, Nashville, Minnesota and New York City. I […] Read more…

3 Gifts for a 20-Something (14)

Every time I interview a 40-something woman for 40:20 Vision I ask them what 3 “gifts” would they give a 20-something if they were a “Forty-Godmother”. Here’s one woman’s gifts: !. A sense of self-worth that no one can take that away from you. Only you let them. 2. Education. That really comes from my […] Read more…

How Did You Meet?

A lot of women I meet want to hear stories of how couples met. So today I am sharing one woman’s story of finding love after years of casual dating.  She took an approach that started with putting herself first. She made a conscious effort to take a year to focus on her personal life. She […] Read more…

Put “Not Knowing” to Work in the Workplace

Don’t be intimidated by thinking that everyone around you has it so much more figured out than you do. One woman shared this insight with me that a college professor imparted on her. “Confidence is as much a rhetorical position as it is a real attitude that people carry with them. Just because someone is […] Read more…

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