I realize that it is okay to show your true self. I was afraid to show my personality in my twenties. I was buttoned up, got the job done professional. But I was a fun, spunky woman. I don’t think it would have hurt to let my sense of humor show a bit more. Now […] Read more…
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3 Gifts for a 20-Something
What three “gifts” would you give a 20-something if you were a “Forty-Godmother”? Here, 40-somethng women share the three things to help 20-somethings get a head start on perspective and gain confidence to make decisions that are right for them. No more woulda, coulda, shoulda.
1. Don’t deceive yourself. For so many reasons!
2. Appreciate others in all life situations. There is a good probability that at one time in your life you will be in their shoes. If you never are, you are either lucky, or you missed an opportunity to learn and grow.
3. Allow yourself to feel, experience, and process through hardship. It can be much more painful to deal with in the future if you suppress it. You can pay for counseling, treatment, etc., now or years later when you will likely have compiled regrets and also lost precious time.
– Heidi from Spokane WA
Today’s 3 Gifts came from a reader submission. Share your wisdom…. what are your 3 Gifts?
Dear 20-Something, Five Things I Wish I Knew Then
1. Wear a bikini always, because though you may think you have physical imperfections, after you reach 40 you’ll yearn for the 20 year old opportunity to put on that small suit.
2. Take your first child while he/she is still an infant out with you to restaurants and movies. The child will sleep through most of it and you’ll be out of the house. Once the baby hits 8 months, that part of your life is officially over, so grab it while you still can.
3. Keep a journal, or at the very least a daily calendar. At 42, I’ve already forgotten much of my 20s. It is a shame, because I would love to read where I was emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually at that time. It might give me a glimpse into where I’ll be at 60.
4. Friends will make bad decisions, and behave badly toward you. It almost always isn’t about you or anything you’ve done. They are struggling with something. The first few times, let it go. After that, it is a pattern and time to move on. You’ll make lots of friends in your lifetime. Spend time on the friendships that enrich your life. Let go of the friendships that drain you. It isn’t a failure to let go–it is time to make room for someone new to come into your life.
5. Your behavior toward colleagues and acquaintances in your 20s will impact your 40s. I find people that I met in one context early in my career have now, 20 years later, come back into my life under different circumstances. People remember kindness and generosity. Call it professional and personal karma.
– Mom, former sports agent, Atlanta
What three “gifts” would you give a 20-something if you were a “Forty-Godmother”? 40-something women share three things to help a 20-something get a head start on the confidence to make decisions that are right for themselves. No more woulda, coulda, shoulda. 1. Be patient when starting a new job. It’s hard being new. You want […] Read more…
A few weeks ago I wrote about banning busy and being purposeful. Today some help on getting there…the importance of saying no! I wish in my twenties I learned to say, “no”, which I now do. Just as far as just pressures where there’s family or friends…like you feel guilty so you do everything. But I […] Read more…
What three “gifts” would you give a 20-something if you were a “Forty-Godmother”? 40-something women share three things to help a 20-something get a head start on the confidence to make decisions that are right for themselves. No more woulda, coulda, shoulda. 1. You are going to go through many phases of who you are….you may […] Read more…
I recently gave a talk on mentorship for NYC Lady Project (fantastic organization). Since mentorship is such a loaded word these days — I decided to look up the actual definition just for fun. But the funniest part was the pop up I encountered: “Mentor is currently in the 1% of lookups and is the 308th most popular […] Read more…
Found this on Facebook recently and thought it oh so very 40:20 Vision! Read more…
What three “gifts” would you give a 20-something if you were a “Forty-Godmother”? 40-something women share three things to help a 20-something get a head start on the confidence to make decisions that are right for themselves. No more woulda, coulda, shoulda. 1. No one’s path is better than another’s. You are […] Read more…
Happy Wednesday! Today I have some answers to 20-something questions. One last answer on the question about how to manage being busy . Ever since this NY Times article it has been on my mind a lot! Then some advice on mentorship – how to give and get! Does “being busy: get you anywhere? Hi. My question […] Read more…
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