What three “gifts” would you give a 20-something if you were a “Forty-Godmother”? Here 40-somethings share three wishes to help a 20-something get a head start on the confidence to make decisions that are right for them (not their parents, friends, teachers or society). No more woulda, coulda, shoulda.
Today’s three wishes are from one of my Mentoring Salons where mentors share wisdom from their other side of experience.
Frame your future. You can define how you move forward. I removed the word “failure” from my Lexicon. I replaced it with the word “pivot.” Now I’m constantly pivoting. It’s something that doesn’t work. So what? I learn, and I’ll go a different direction. There’s no such thing as “no.” There’s no such thing as “problem.” I replaced problem with “opportunity for innovation.” I replaced “no” with “Let me change my question then.” I replaced “failure” with “pivot.” If that’s the case, then we should absolutely pivot fast because why would you spend time and money on something after you know it’s time to pivot. – serial founder in fin-tech space, lawyer
Pay attention to the “fire in your belly”. Don’t expect an epiphany where you say “this is my passion.” For me it’s more about following the “fire in my belly” kind of feeling that I get when I’m doing something that I really love. It’s taking note of that and saying, “Why do I love this so much? What is it about this?” You can have passion for a lot of things and it’s really about what kinds of tasks do I really enjoy engaging in. Is it with people? Is it on my own? Is it being creative? Is it being analytical? – exec in organizational & people development at a Silicon Valley tech company, investment bank and global luxury brand.
With a few exceptions, whatever you do, you can undo. – PR exec, founder, angel investor