What three “gifts” would you give a 20-something if you were a “Forty-Godmother”? Here 40-somethings share three wishes to help a 20-something get a head start on the confidence to make decisions that are right for them (not their parents, friends, teachers or society). No more woulda, coulda, shoulda.
Good decisions. Don’t make any important decisions when you’re tired.
An up for every down. You’re going to face challenges and every one of them will add another chink to your “self worth” armor. Overtime you will bank this reservoir of experiences to know how to navigate challenges. The silver lining — there will be an up for every down. Hell yes, it’s hard, but it always gets better. Keep a journal so you can remember those lows and highs and how they change.
Get messy. Let people see the messy of your life. It’s very lonely when you don’t. And you get so much back in return when you do.