What three “gifts” would you give a 20-something if you were a “Forty-Godmother”? Here 40-somethings share three wishes to help a 20-something get a head start on the confidence to make decisions that are right for themselves. No more woulda, coulda, shoulda.
1. Patience. You don’t have to be everything right now. I think that at twenty, you know yourself, but you still have give yourself the time and the space to grow and change. Being you is a lifelong process.
2. The ability to teach people how to treat you. It’s how you treat yourself that counts. You have to value and honor yourself or no one else is going to do it. It’s knowing yourself, being true to yourself. And don’t just be in a relationship because this guy looks right on the surface. You can’t look outside yourself for someone to complete you. Make sure the person in your life gives you the space to grow and vice versa.
3. To use your power to choose. You don’t choose your family but you can choose friends and people to surround yourself with. You’re going to be more powerful if you make good choices. That was a big lesson for me. It’s the choices you make with your health, the choices you make with your friends that can help you create the life you want. It doesn’t matter if you had a bad start.